Queering the Knot: Priorities and Practices in the Weddings of Trans and Genderqueer Individuals

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Abstract

This paper examines how people who identify as trans or genderqueer negotiate the gendered ritual of celebrating a wedding. A series of qualitative interviews reveal that three factors related to gender and sexuality were especially significant for many of those interviewed. First, respondents wanted their weddings to be a space in which they could enact authentic gendered performances in whatever forms they might take. Second, weddings were viewed as opportunities to foster community and a sense of support. Finally, respondents tried to anticipate what their families and guests might need to make them more comfortable with the process. I find that in order to come to a satisfactory resolution of these sometimes competing factors, some couples felt that their needs were best served by holding two wedding ceremonies—one in which the trans/genderqueer status of one or both partners was openly expressed and a second in which that status went unacknowledged.

Author

• Lisa Fein, Westminster College